My dearly beloved reader: Thank you for gathering in front of your computer today to read whatever I might have to say about marriage. This is my first official post, officially dedicated to the topic. I’ll start by saying that I am not an expert. Lord knows the world doesn’t need another one of those.
In my town, Seattle, we already have this.
And these guys.
Even this guy.
Each of these experts has more to say about marriage – especially of the Christian variety – than I ever will. I’m sure I have opinions about their opinions, but that just makes me opinionated. Which pretty much makes me like everybody else in the world.
The idea of marriage is getting a lot of attention these days. It’s all over the news, of course, because a whole bunch of people care very much about who should and should not be allowed to marry. I’m sure I have an opinion about that too.
But for today. For my first post about marriage, I’m going to go out on a limb and offer the only opinion that I’d take a bullet for. Ready? Here it is:
Marriage is hard.
I really believe that’s true whether you marry a man or a woman or a Kardashian or a dragon. Marriage is also wonderful and fun and transformative, but mostly it’s hard.
I’ve heard people say, “Marriage is a marathon not a sprint.” In response I say, “Have you ever run a marathon?”
Most haven’t. I’ve run two and can tell you that being married is pretty much nothing like running a marathon. In a marathon, once you get to 26.2 miles, you get to stop.
Marriage is just running.
Til you die.
That’s what you sign up for. On the altar, you say a bunch of vows, the starting pistol goes off, you run down the aisle and you have to keep running til death do you part.
So it’s important to take good care of yourself, your spouse, your marriage. You’ve got to learn when you have to walk and when you get to sprint. You have to pay close attention and understand when you need to grab some water or rehab an injury. You have to remember every now and again why you started running in the first place.
I think I’ve done a pretty good job with this so far. It helps that I have a terrific partner. And I’ve been fortunate enough to have some great coaches along the way – including some of the experts above.
My plan is to use this space to offer some perspectives, stories, tips, tricks and opinionated opinions over the next year. My goal is two posts a week, with at least one of those specifically dedicated to marriage.
I hope some of the stuff I write will be of help to you.