My philosophy of pre-marital counseling has shifted quite a bit lately. I used to think of it as short-term process designed to help couples prepare for married life. We would tackle the typical issues of money, sex, in-laws, etc… but it started to feel a little bit like checking off the boxes. I’ve come to believe that nothing prepares you for married life except married life.
Therapy can help, and I think it’s a good investment, but rather than pre-marital therapy, I’ve been thinking more in terms of Transition to Marriage counseling. Get started before the wedding to expose and explore critical issues. But plan follow up sessions – maybe once a month for a year – to help make the adjustment. Here are a few articles I’ve written on my shift in thinking.
- 3 Questions to Ask Before your Wedding Day
- Relationship Alphabet: N is for Newlyweds
- Relationship Alphabet: O is for Opportunity
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