I’ve been helping couples build connection for over 20 years—as a teacher, coach, and therapist. I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington State and, as far as I know, the only couples therapist in the world certified in both Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Relational Life Therapy (Terry Real’s model).

I train clinicians in both approaches and often speak and teach on how they intersect—where they align, where they clash, and how together they create something more complete.

I’m also the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of The Relationship Alphabet, a bestselling relationship guide, and The Marriage Therapy Journal, a practical workbook for couples. My work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Vanity Fair, Men’s Health, Real Simple, and the Gottman Relationship Blog.

I’ve been happily married to Rebecca for 25 of our 28 years together. We live in Seattle with two adulting daughters who challenge our sanity and enrich our lives in equal measure.